A Bus Called Destiny

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Today my child went off on her 1st ever school trip πŸ™‚
Ironically on a Bus with Destiny written on it …
She’s growing up … The apron strings are getting looser & I’m beginning to feel like she’s becoming too big, too fast!

Not that I’m not enjoying every moment of this as well … We are becoming somewhat more of equals now … The relationship has grown beyond me being the nurturer & she the dependant child . Of late there have been moments when the roles have been reversed & she’s taken care of me … Like recently when I fractured my foot … She was so caring & did everything to make me comfortable.
I’m both happy & apprehensive about this new phase of our life… Especially because of the times we live in !
We merrily cycled up & down the roads of Juhu Scheme & were cautioned about watching out for the cars not people !
Today I don’t let her open the door or go down alone in the lift . But for how long ??

Fifteen days ago we let her travel as an unaccompanied minor although we could easily have let the nanny accompany her.Rohit was shooting in Udaipur & we went there to visit him over the weekend.Kiara was to leave on Sunday night so as to not miss school & I planned to stay back for a couple of days because we had to go on to Jaipur from there for some event .Kiara was really keen to fly back alone since many kids in her class had already done it & “it was her adventure”… reading too many Famous Fives πŸ™‚ My rational mind told me there was nothing to fear…children are looked after really well & fussed over when they fly as UM’s but who’ll tell the heart not to beat so loudly & jump into my mouth .
And to top it all … Just as I left the airport after seeing her off , I was called by the ground staff to come back as the flight was returning due to a technical error !!! It’s a known fact that landing & take off are the times during which most accidents occur & I was scared !!! I prayed to every God I know as I rushed back to the airport.Those were easily some of the most tense moments of my life.I blamed myself for letting her travel alone & worked myself up into a knot.The plane landed safely & the minute she came out I hugged her tight & decided I’m not letting her out of my sight ever ! Kiara on the other hand was really upset that her “adventure” wasn’t completed πŸ™‚
Husband & I decided we aren’t letting her go back unaccompanied anymore.The flight didn’t take off that evening and I was going to go back with her on the next flight the following evening. Rohit’s brother called & said this is a sign you shouldn’t let her travel alone. My sister in law said please don’t put a fear in her mind,let her come alone. So amidst conflicting advice & whirling uncertainty in our own heads we finally decided that by not letting her complete the journey on her own we’d unnecessarily scare her or put a fear of flying into her.Therefore Kiara’s “adventure” as an unaccompanied minor was finally completed .

We are not going to always be there for our kids …I mean, we will be there always but maybe not physically present at all times.
Even now when they go to school they are on their own…coping with their studies, other students…there are a lot of dynamics at play & they are learning to handle it on their own …
They’ll go to college , start working,fall in love … Though not necessarily in that order πŸ™‚
And we will stand on the sidelines & watch Destiny play out what it has in store for them…
Because someday all our kids are getting on a bus called Destiny & going off to lead their lives !
I pray that Destiny will be kind to my child & take care of her πŸ™‚

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35 comments

  1. lovely thoughts…parents after all,v r always worried abt our kids…n want to protect them every moment but as we all know ultimately its upto destiny and of course all our prayers …so me 2 praying that Destiny will be kind to our kids…all d best

  2. Isn’t it all so bittersweet…this push and pull relationship with our kids. At whatever age you let them go…and for however far…they carry a chunk of our hearts with them…

    1. So true Rekha … Our hearts beat outside of our body once we become mothers πŸ™‚ Thank you for reading & commenting πŸ™‚

  3. Very touching and very from the heart and I think its a dilemma most parents of growing kids face …the need to protect versus the need to let them be Independant…very nice post πŸ™‚

  4. My thoughts exactly .. Our baby is growing up… Fast… Don’t want her to be independent so soon !!! Never going to let her go unaccompanied anything anywhere again!!! Should have driven behind the bus till pune!! Coz I always want to be part of her ‘destiny’ ….

    1. Dear Rohit, we will always be a part of her Destiny :)) And also her protectors & guides as she’ll embark upon her many “adventures”.

  5. lovely note and par for the course for every parent. as much as every parent has the inherent need to keep their child safe, destiny and fate decides what happens to us. Pinky has a tendency to be over protective ………..my parents put me on a plane at 12.5 to the USA and I stayed with a host family for three months. One of the best experiences of my life. Children are resilient, more so than adults and we have to understand that we can’t always process, analyze for them as adults, they have to sort things out for themselves. Over protection can detract from many life experiences and lessons and actually have the polar opposite effect of what you are trying to achieve. It’s like a spouse or significant other. the tighter your leash, the most likely to be trouble in paradise. your daughter is a lovely girl. Let her have her adventures. Love and miss you

    1. Thank you Bettina πŸ™‚ yes I hope she has many Adventures & yet is always safe from harm ! Glad to know you had such a fun “adventure” as a kid πŸ™‚

  6. dats vry much true being a mother we alwaz worried bot our kids bt its ultimate truth let them fight dere battle themselves jst praying destany n god wll be kind wid our kids …stay blessed ever.
    The law of destiny determines what forces influence our lives to ensure we encounter the life experiences that we require for our continued development. Destiny is essentially a series of opportunities that enable us to learn lessons, acquire new abilities, develop our consciousness and help others.

    1. That’s true Amita … I believe that we choose the life path that we will travel in order to learn the lessons that our soul needs to learn … So as to evolve & be one with the universe ultimately .

  7. Very touchy …parents after all are always worried about their kid how ever old they become. But must say kiara is a brave kid

  8. I sent Ayden unaccompanied from Bangalore to Chennai, a couple of months after he turned 5. I had my heart in my mouth… made sure he had everything he needed, made him pee at least twice before he was taken in to the gate, waited till the flight took off, and prayed like crazy. Told him not to accept any food, esp. chocolates (his favorite) from anyone… to the point, he told me that I was repeating myself. With the kind of travel we do, I need him to be independent esp when he wants to go to Ahmedabad. Yes… I understand exactly what you are saying… but being an only child and definitely overly protected like Kiara, I have to pull myself away to letting him be on his own. A year ago, I let him stay overnight at a camp… And he had a great time. Kiara will be great… we just need to manage our fears and cross our fingers and pray that they will always be safe….

    1. True Aanal it’s we who need to keep our fears & paranoia in check … Within reasonable limits of course πŸ™‚

  9. Yes…as parents our basic instinct is to protect our offspring but it is a fact that with every baby step. We have to prepare them to face the rigours of life. By the way I have had a hard time letting my 21 and 23 yrs old out of my sight to ‘experience’ life on their own! But as I see them doing well, I feel a sense of accomplishment as if their success is, in part, mine too……

    1. Jasmine I can only imagine how I’ll react when my baby becomes an adult ! Their success is ours in some way …

  10. True Mansi..hope Destiny will be kind ..:) I have 2 girls 10 and 13 I still can’t let them out of my sight ..:) lovely Thoughts
    Love Kirti

    1. Kirti it’s difficult to let go but we must for their own good … May Destiny be kind to all our children πŸ™‚

  11. I’m not a parent and I don’t see it happening. I can only try to relate to your emotions because some of my closest friends have children and I can imagine what you go through. I must admit I am so proud of you for letting her travel alone. You are a great mother. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Well done !

  12. Loved the blogs, Mansi, some were very thought-provoking. Your latest one, on THE BUS, is so true of life itself. You put the kids on the big bus of life, and hope like hell it’s going in the right direction! I also feel each child has his or her own destiny, so within a family, it’s interesting to see how two (or three) young lives are shaped.

    Your Kiara promises to be a girl with her head on her shoulders, and with such wonderful parents to guide her, she’s going to be an amazing young lady!

  13. Respected mam,
    I also enjoy watching your programs including kkusum.Currently u are acting in which program????
    Regards
    Abhishek

  14. The sentiments you have expressed are universal. Once a parent, always a parent….we as parents will always be protective of our children, no matter how old they are, though we know they are growing up, becoming more independent, we continue to be concerned about them. Its a natural reaction…I so identified with the sentiments and situations….Loved reading this all over again….Waiting for more write ups on your blog….Keep them coming πŸ™‚

  15. Masnsi you are the best mother I am proud of you and what as mother you fell is protecting your child that’s the best thing to do as mother

  16. Don’t hold the string so tight that it may break. We all learnt along the way. Give her that opportunity too!!! As parents, we worry but if we hold on too tight, our kids won’t grow. Watch them bloom and let them know you are always there beside them no matter what. They get strength from this.
    Love your mommy side and love the relationship you share with your daughter ( and your birthday with me.

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